Saying NO a difficult but a powerful Tool

Whenever we are surrounded by our loved ones or authority figures in offices we come across a situation where our heart says we don't want to do a particular task but we force ourselves to do because of a place of pressure. This place of pressure is also self-created.

Due to this, we come across unhappiness or unsuccessful results. The main reason for it is there is a voice inside us which already knows what is right and what is wrong for us.

But most of the time we ignore it and take it as a challenge and do undesired things, whose result is a failure most of the time.
The most important to do during such times is to sit quietly and listen to the inner voice and figure out what it is trying to tell you. Then the biggest challenge is how to say a no. Let's learn a few techniques of How to say a no

• One should have a clear vision of what is a yes for you and what is a no for you. For example, you need a me-time at that moment as you are completely exhausted but you force yourself to work then you might develop agitation or throw up on your loved one. Resulting in disharmony in the relationship.
• Know the results of saying a yes. If you keep on saying yes you drift from the vision you carry, thus resulting in loss of vision.
• Realize saying NO is ok. If we do not say a no we are compelled to do things which may result in giving a wrong notion or identity to the other about us.
• Keep it simple. You always do not owe an explanation for saying a no.
• Be respectful. While saying a no you should keep in mind the other person's point of view towards it and be polite while saying a no.
• Provide an alternative. If you have another alternative or the way which might be right according to you, one can share it but that is not compulsory if you do not wish to do it.
• Make yourself less accessible. Do not make yourself available to anyone all the time. Keeping your importance is very important so that no one takes you for granted.
• Note down everything before you say. If you find it difficult to say a no you should first write down the reasons as it helps your mind to register the facts and build in more confidence and make your answers precise.
• Delay your response. When you are not sure of something take time from the other person to think it over. This is very important as an answer to hustle compel you the unwanted doing.
• No reply is also a form of reply. Sometimes certain situations do not require to be replied with a no as silence is a powerful tool that you do not agree with the other.

So from today learn to say a no when its a no in your heart.