May 4, 2023 By Rupall Shah
Are you teaching your children in the right way?
Do we actually teach our children for long term or are we teaching some lessons unknowingly to help us get through the day?
Do we need to change ourselves and stop trying to change them
Lets look closely on to certain behaviours of our children... if they are behaving in a way you don’t like, it’s not because they are not good at learning or they are not observing, or you need to teach them values. It is because we are teaching them indirectly through our behaviours, because of which they are doing wrong things.
Often we don’t know what we are teaching our kids until after they’ve learned it, but this helps us to be more mindful in the moment of the lessons that we are learning from our children.
We need to reflect back on when and how we unknowingly taught the behaviours that we are seeing in our children now.
for eg:
When your child overhears you talking bad about your friend and then later on acting nicely in front of the friend, instead of teaching kindness you indirectly teach them the opposite.
By doing this, you may be teaching your children that;
1. It is okay to talk about people behind their backs.
2. It is okay to insult people behind their back.
3. It is okay to lie to people
You may think yelling at your child when they don’t respect, obey your commands or listen to you may teach them to listen and respect their elders, but what you may actually be teaching them is that;
1. It’s okay to yell at people if they don’t do what you say.
2. Being elder, stronger and bigger than someone gives you the right to treat them however you want.
3. When you’re bigger than someone you can control their environment.
When your children hear you using bad words and on the other hand you’re trying to teach them good values, you’re not actually teaching them good values, you’re teaching them that it’s okay to;
1. Use bad words on others.
2. Lie to people.
3. Not follow the rules and regulations.
These are very few examples where we can actually understand how our actions are affecting the behaviour of our children. So it clearly shows that we need to be more consciously aware of our actions to build great values in our children . This is how through observation children are learning multiple things from other people and surroundings too. We cannot control the external exposure but atleast we can improve our own actions .
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Regards
Rupall Shahh
Lifechanger